ARE YOU A BUCKET FILLER OR A DIPPER?

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Are you a bucket filler or a dipper? this is a question we need to ask ourselves everyday. Your answer determine who you are and what people we say about You.

You have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a bucket that is like the cup, only larger, it is an invisible bucket. Everyone has one. It determines how we feel about ourselves, about others, and how we get along with people.

Have you ever experienced a series of very favorable things which made you want to be good to people for a week? At that time, your bucket was full.
A bucket can be filled by a lot of things that happen. When a person speaks to you, recognizing you as a human being, your bucket is filled a little. Even more if he calls you by name you like . If he compliments you on your dress or on a job well done, the level in your bucket goes up still higher. There must be a million ways to raise the level in another’s bucket. Writing a friendly letter, remembering something that is special to him, knowing the names of his children, expressing sympathy for his loss, giving him a hand when his work is heavy, taking time for conversation, or, perhaps more important, listing to him.
When one’s bucket is full of this emotional support, one can express warmth and friendliness to people.

But, remember, this is a theory about a bucket and a dipper. Other people have dippers and they can get their dippers in your bucket. This, too, can be done in a million ways.
Lets say I am at a dinner and inadvertently upset a glass of thick, sticky chocolate milk that spills over the table cloth, on a lady’s skirt, down onto the carpet. I am embarrassed. “Bright Eyes” across the table says, “You upset that glass of chocolate milk.” I made a mistake, I know I did, and then he told me about it! He got his dipper in my bucket! Think of the times a person makes a mistake, feels terrible about it, only to have someone tell him about the known mistake .
Buckets are filled and buckets are emptied ? emptied many times because people don’t really think about what are doing. When a person’s bucket is emptied, he is very different than when it is full. You say to a person whose bucket is empty, “That is a pretty tie you have,” and he may reply in a very irritated, defensive manner.
Although there is a limit to such an analogy, there are people who seem to have holes in their buckets. When a person has a hole in his bucket, he irritates lots of people by trying to get his dipper in their buckets. This is when he really needs somebody to pour it in his bucket because he keeps losing.

The story of our lives is the interplay of the bucket and the dipper. Everyone has both. The unyielding secret of the bucket and the dipper is that when you fill another’s bucket it does not take anything out of your own bucket. The level in our own bucket gets higher when we fill another’s, and, on the other hand, when we dip into another’s bucket we do not fill our own … we lose a little.
For a variety of reasons, people hesitate filling the bucket of another and consequently do not experience the fun, joy, happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction connected with making another person happy. Some reasons for this hesitancy are that people think it sounds “fakey,” or the other person will be suspicious of the motive, or it is “brown-nosing.”
Therefore, let us put aside our dipper and resolve to touch someone’s life in order to fill their bucket which fills up our bucket too .

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MORE TO LIFE…

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God never promise us it is going to be easy in life, but He did promise a great end.

“Someone asked Rev. Billy Graham if he didn’t think God was unfair, allowing him to have Parkinson’s and other medical problems and still you served GOD faithfully. I replied that I did not see it that way at all. Trial is part of the human condition, and it comes to us all. The key is how we react to it, either turning away from God in anger and bitterness or growing closer to him in trust and confidence.

Here is my story as well, my childhood was not ideal. It wasn’t absolutely rough, but it wasn’t great either. I put up walls around my heart to survive and just always expect the worst. I never allowed myself to have hope, because, well.. what was the point? People let me down, my family had issues and the words i heard everyday I would never amount to anything. Depressing right?
My negative walls was actually destroying me. I could never see the good, never felt joy or peace and everything always had a negative. As I come to know the Lord and develop a relationship with God though, I realized that everyone has something they have had to deal with. Terrible things happen to other people, not just me.
Until i stumble to this scripture  “WHEN you go through deep water i will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.
This is an incredible promise for me. No matter what i am go through God Himself says He will be there with me.
There was a season in my life that has been particularly difficult even when i have know the Lord. I am experiencing feelings and emotions that were buried deep in my heart; these feelings and emotions were built on lies and deceptions. I lived in a world of denial and kept my secrets….secret, even to myself. But now they are surfacing; even though I have tried my best to avoid dealing with them. I have used different approaches of escape like watching TV, going shopping, and overeating; all to keep my mind busy and off of what I was feeling, but nothing calmed the stirrings within. It became obvious that running from the healing hand of God is futile and foolish. God cannot let us wallow in the trappings of the enemy’s distortions. He is a God of progress and healing and He wants us healed even more than we want healing for ourselves.
In this verse… my understanding open – He speaks of us passing through waters. Symbolically waters can mean a lot of things. Mostly I have seen water as a symbol of emotions or representative of the Holy Spirit. God uses the word waters or rivers as visual insight into the troubles we face. He is very careful to say ‘when” you pass through the waters, because It is inevitable that we will pass through waters of pain, trouble and suffering. On our spiritual journey we face many hardships and some of these experiences involve the hard task of healing; these healings remove the barriers that prevent us from becoming closer to God.
Even though we will experience hardship, it is important to note that God promises to go through these times with us.

This is how I am getting through this season; by keeping my focus on the Lord and believing He will walk to the end with me. I am not alone and I am not afraid as long as He is with me.
Not only does God promise to go through the desert with me, He also promises that i will be victorious after going through these hard times: i come out the other side with victory and strength. It is then that i experience a new normal. This normal is full of clarity and confidence and brings me another step closer to my destiny.

Note: We are not exempt from trials, and just life itself. Life will happen, but He is always with us, and that gives me so much hope and reassurance that everything is going to be okay.
As long as I have God with me, I will make it, and so will you!
My prayer anytime in a terrible situation, is this i am so thankful that You are always with me God. You stick closer than a brother, and Your word promises that You will never leave me nor forsake me. I will face things in this lifetime that I cannot handle on my own, but I will find my strength in You. Thank you for helping through and my victory is stand sure with You Lord in Jesus name. Amen.

You too can start now with this prayer, it has help me thus far. I believe it will help you as well. Remember never to give on GOD because HE  will never give up on you.

GOD BLESS YOU

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TIDBIT OF THE DAY! #Feb24

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Hello world, welcome to another day a gift of GOD to us. Let us come alive and make the day a glorious one.

Here is my tidbit of the day A little more persistence, a little more effort, and what seemed hopeless failure may turn to glorious success.

So it is not time to gave up but put more effort, you almost there.

God bless you today and have a joyful weekend.

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